Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” This is a basic principle, but one that can be easily overlooked. Throughout the recent years of my life I have known many individuals especially friends whose marital relationship suffered which led to divorce because this principle was not applied early in their marriage.
When couple are married its a commandment that, they began to start their own proper family. In the article, “CREATING HEALTHY TIES WITH IN-LAWS AND EXTENDED FAMILY” we are counseled on two important principles. First, “married children should confide in and counsel with their spouses. Second, if possible, they should establish their own household, separate from their parents. Finally, any counsel from outside sources should be considered prayerfully by both spouses together.”
Another important principle is, getting along with our extended family. When you marry your spouse their family becomes yours, therefore, being able to get along with them is essential. My older brother and his wife are a perfect example of this. One thing I admire about them is the balance they maintain between both families. They take turns visiting each others families on holidays. They are really good at making sure, negative and controlling influences do not enter their relationship.
Many times the influence of parents in a couples marriage and be overwhelming. Elder Richard G Scott has states, “Your Heavenly Father does not want you to be held captive by unrighteous influence, by threats of reprisal or by fear of repercussion to the family member who abuses you. In these cases, it is appropriate for spouses to counsel together and decide together and decide together how much contact, if any, to have with an extended family member who continues to be abusive.” Council with your spouse is the best way to grow your relationship and to protect it from harm.
May we always remember the importance of family and counsel wisely with our spouses in a spirit of unity and love.