Marriage is like a school of learning

Marriage is  beautiful, but requires learning and application.  In the Spring of 2014 I was sitting in LDS Business College’s weekly devotional. Speaking at this devotional was the director of the religion department. During his talk he explained, ” I am more in love with my wife now than I ever been before.” This certain individual was married to his wife for more than two or three decades and through the gospel of Jesus Christ has built a solid foundation of a never ending love for his spouse.
In the book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” Gottman teaches, “Marriage is a finishing school.” Marriage is continual learning process. In the first stages of marriage, and throughout a life time, there will be differences and struggles, but learning how to cope through those experiences and applying the principle of sacrifice teaches life greatest lessons. Communication, feedback, and expressing love through words of endearment are some essential key’s to building your relationship with your spouse. Often, I have met couples who struggle because, they become to comfortable with life and forget to make their relationship with their spouse a responsibility.
In the 2009 Ensign article, Our Perfect Example, President Henry B. Eyring teaches the importance of love, especially in the family. He further states, “Heavenly Father has given us families so we can learn to love as he loves”. “Joy comes from putting the welfare of others above our own. Sorrow comes from selfishness which is the absence of love.” Eyring then teaches and invites us to act on four principles that teach us about love. “First, Pray for the love to see the good in your companion. Second, Pray for the love to see that weaknesses and mistakes seem small. Third, Pray for the joy to make your companions joy your own. Fourth, Pray for the love to lighten the load and soften the sorrows of your companion.”
May we always remember the importance of the family and love as the Savior loves.
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Making Marriage Work

Love is beautiful and is intended to last forever. A few years ago, I heard a quote that says, “Falling in love is easy but living happily ever after is the key.” Love requires a constant effort with a husband and a wife working as a team.

Growing up, I had the opportunity to observe many relationships that were healthy and strong, as well as many that were not. A common pattern in struggling marriages comes from selfishness. Love is like a campfire, if you let the campfire burn and do nothing to keep it going, eventually it will burn out. If you keep adding wood and other essentials to the fire, it will keep burning. In the 2007 General Conference, Elder Wirthlin teaches us, “Love is simple acts of kindness.” By taking time to serve your spouse, the love between you both will never burn out.

There will always be differences in a marriage, but living happily ever after requires a couple working through the challenges and finding common ground. In the book “The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work,” Gottman (Pg.23) teaches a very important principle called, “A happy couples secret weapon.” We learn of a couple named Nathaniel and Olivia. This couple was disagreeing on many important events, such as buying a house and a car. As the disagreements began to escalate, the wife Olivia put her hands on her hips and stuck out her tongue and acted like their four year old daughter. This stopped the argument and got them to start laughing and smiling. Due to this little act, both were able to say sorry.

Love is essential to everything in a relationship. If married couples build their friendship with each other, serve, work, and forgive when disagreements happen, the love will never burn out.

Building your families foundation through the gospel of Jesus Christ

I would like to start my blog this week by saying how much I love my family and how grateful I am for the knowledge of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Through the years my family has experienced many challenges and trials but through the gospel we have always gotten through the challenges.

2009 to 2011 I had the blessing of serving a mission in Chile for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. While serving a mission I saw many families that decided not to apply the gospel in their daily lives and when adversity and trials came they fell apart and became a dis functional family. It broke my heart to see this happen but it taught how fast a family can fall if the gospel is not being implemented.

In the years that lay ahead we will continue to experience many trials and struggles but, if stay faithful and build upon the fundamentals of the gospel such as, prayer, scripture study, attend church, and dedicate time for family home evening, our families will have a firm foundation and will not fall when opposition occurs.

In the Book of Mormon another testament of Jesus Christ the scripture Helaman 5:12 says, “And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty stormshall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall”

Its my prayer that we will remember the importance of the gospel of Jesus Christ and implement it into our families on a daily basis. As you do I promise your family will be strengthened and you all with have the strength yo overcome your trials.

The Family: A Proclomation to the World

Having a family is one the biggest blessings a person can receive in this life. Families are essential to everything we do. In our families we learn and grow through the good and bad and no matter what we always love each.

Growing up as a child one of my favorite memories involved my family going to a park in Huntsville Utah. It is was a very large park with a slide coming out of the tree. The park had basketball hoops and a very spacious field to play soccer and run. I remember playing with my older brother and sister on the playground while our parents watched and rested. Though I was very young I came to understand how important my family is and, how I would be lost with out them.

When we understand the importance of family our perspective of life is more clear. On September twenty third nineteen ninety five, The Presidency and Quorum of the twelve apostles of, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints provided a very special message that helps families remember their divine nature and destiny. It teaches families are ordained of God and are essential to His plan of happiness. In the Proclamation we learn, “Happiness in  family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.”

https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng&cid=PA0414-02 After reading this Proclamation you will find eternal truths that could bring you more happiness than you can imagine. I know with all my heart families are essential to our Heavenly Fathers plan. I know through the gospel of Jesus Christ families can be eternal, and through its application we come to feel of the love Heavenly Father has for us as his children.

Essential steps for a successful marriage

Through out my life I have heard falling in love is easy, but living happily ever after is the hard part. Marriage is a team effort and requires both sides to do their part. In the April 2013 general conference L. Whitney Clayton teaches us, some essential principles to build a solid marriage. https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/04/marriage-watch-and-learn?lang=eng#watch=video

As married couples  strive to always apply the fundamental principles of the gospel such as, prayer, scripture study, going to church, and spending time with each other, the powers of heaven will be blossom in their marriage and they will feel God’s power and influence in all they do.